[承擔責任]
冒險和接受挑戰,是因為我們有自由。
而自由,當然包括會犯錯的可能,
但個人的犯錯,應該由自己去承擔後果,
不應該讓別人來付出代價!
勇往直前之前,我們除了應該衡量一下一旦犯錯後,
個人所蒙受的損失之外,亦應該衡量一下別人的損失。
承擔自己冒險的後果是應該的,
讓別人同時承擔自己冒險的後果則是不負責任的行為。
下面這句說話,當然是對有相當智慧的人說的,
而且假設了犯錯的人會承擔自己的責任:
A life spent making mistakes is
not only more honorable, but more useful
than a life spent doing nothing.
( George Bernard Shaw )
所以並非在大部份情況之下,我們都可以這樣說:
Doing something and getting it wrong
is at least ten times more productive
than doing nothing.
No matter how many mistakes you make,
or how slow you progress, you are
trying to learn important lessons in life
and you are still way ahead of everyone
who isn’t trying.
Don’t let negative words of others
affect your endeavour!
因為其中涉及「道路的選擇」和「責任的承擔」兩大課題。
所以一旦我們聽到心理學家對傻佬說了這句話之後,
那名傻佬就立即自告奮勇地去駕駛旅遊巴士,
閣下千萬不要坐上去!
如果你坐了上去的話,你學到的教訓也許會是:
Past mistakes just may not be able to teach us
how to create a wonderful future!
原因是你站不起來的時候,
即使有好心人想扶你一把,亦未必會這樣做,
因為他見到醫護人員盡了最大努力之後,正在合上你的眼睛。
合上眼睛之前,記得告訴自己:「我終於明白甚麼是愛!」
When you truly care for a fool,
you don’t look for his mistakes.
You accept his faults and you overlook excuses.
The measure of love is
when you love without measure.
That is, love must be unconditional!
You understand that you may be living in danger
when you follow a fool’s footsteps.
You embrace that danger.
You know you should not judge.
If you judge a fool on his ability to think,
he will spend his whole life without dignity.
我們立即想起了愛因斯坦的名句:
Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish
on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its
whole life believing that it is stupid.
( Albert Einstein )
不少自視為仁慈的人討厭「批判思維」,
認為「批判思維」必然對人有所傷害。
他們的信念是:
1. Let your words heal and not wound.
2. Some part of truth is unkind because they hurt.
所以凡是令人聽到之後不高興的真理,少說為妙。
他們不明白批判思維中蘊涵 wound 和 heal 的互為因果關係,
「批判思維」其實和預防注射 inoculation 相似,
在心靈上預先提供了可以應付的「挫折和逆境」!
Amass all the wisdom you can find around you.
Then you will find out that there are no
circumstances so bad and obstacles so big
that you cannot overcome them.
( Jason Ling )