但不要忘記,決定某個「批評」是否愚昧,
有時雖然很容易,但時亦需要智慧。
不少愛面子多於愛真理,又有些社會地位的人,
即使被人說中他們思維中的要害,他們亦會故意扮高級,
當聽不明白,搬出一些曖昧的專業詞彙來反駁,
或者採取「漠視」的方法,當這些「批評」是耳邊風。
當他們被迫要回應時,
往往會將這些「批評」說成「只不過是別人的意見」。
If you want to make someone hate you,
explain to them, logically and politely,
why they are wrong.
( J. Baylock )
不喜歡別人批評的人,大部份是由於愛面子多於愛真理,
部份是由於思考力不足,以往常常被人指出討厭批評,
部份是由於虛偽被人指出,或者個人或團體的利益被人揭發,
而惱羞成怒。
The man who cannot endure to have his
errors and shortcomings brought to the surface
and made known, but tries to hide them,
is unfit to walk the highway of truth.
( James Allen )
Understand:
people will constantly attack you in life.
One of their main weapons will be to instill
in you doubts about yourself──your worth,
your abilities, your potential. They will often
disguise this as their objective opinion,
but invariably it has a political purpose──
they want to keep you down.
( Robert Greene )
不論是東方還是西方文化,面子都是極為重要的,
所以這些人不會痛恨自己的愚蠢,發奮圖強,
而是痛恨那些令自己的愚蠢醜態畢露的人,
尤其是那些沒有專家身份而令自己腦袋裡的草獻世的人。
這些接受過 schooling 的文字工作者,
他們有美好和看似勵志的金句和我們分享:
Don’t worry about being accepted by others.
Don’t care about what other people think of you.
Don’t worry about what they say behind your back.
Don’t let their bitter and evil words break the
surface of your skin.
What they think of you is none of your business.
What they say about you is their reality, not yours.
If you care too much about what they think,
you will always be their prisoner.
Negativity of the world can’t put you down
unless you allow it to get inside you.
When life pushes you over, you push back harder.
There will always be those people who are finding
faults in your life instead of fixing faults in their
own life, who want to see you fail because they
can’t succeed.
Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself
from the negative, distance yourself from these
mean and disrespectful people, and busy loving
those healthy people who love you! Surround
yourself with those who see greatness within you.